Who decides when a parent needs to let go?  We recently ran into this situation a few weeks ago.  Our daughter is 22 years old and she just moved out.  She took ill one day and needed to go to the ER.  She does not have a car, so she called mom and dad.  We ended up sitting for many hours in the ER with her.  My husband was scheduled to work that day, so, from the ER, he called his supervisor to let her know that he would be late as he is in he ER with his daughter and the docs can’t figure out what is wrong with her.  The supervisor said fine, just keep me updated.  When we finally got out of the ER and were on our way home, my husband called his supervisor again to let her know that since there was only about 2 hours of work left, he would take this as a vacation day.  You see, we live an hour from his work, so by the time he would have gotten there, he would have worked an hour then turned around and went home.

My husband went in to work the next day and was called into the office.  He was told that if it has nothing to do with his wife or handicapped son that lives at home, he is not to take off of work.  They said that “your daughter no longer lives at home and is an adult now and has to learn to take care of herself.”  I was appalled when my husband came home and told me this.  So, in other words, if my other two kids who do not live at home anymore are dying, then he can go to them and take off of work to care for them.  Yeah right!

Who decided that they were the authority on parenting.  Who are they to tell me when to let go of my kids?   l love my kids and they mean the world to me.  They always will.  If they are sick or not, I am going to go to them whenever they need me.  Yes, they have to learn to live on their own, and they are, that doesn’t mean that I can’t help them out once in a while.  Especially when it comes to their health.  I think was my husband supervisor did was uncalled for.  Let see what she does the next time one of her kids gets sick and has to go to the ER.

We are in the process of planning a very large Thanksgiving celebration with my husbands family.  When all of our children were little, we would get together every year for every holiday.  Then as all the kids grew up, some went their own way.  We have some on each side of the country and some with significant others that require their attention at the holidays too.  So, this year, we found out that the ones who no longer live near home are able to come home for Thanksgiving.  We have decided to plan to have everyone together again to celebrate the holiday like we used to.  We used to number around 12.  Now we grew to almost 30.

My mother-in-law called me last week to talk to me about this planned dinner.  We are renting a hall because no one has a big enough house to hold everyone and cook.  What my mother-in-law wanted to know is if we have ever had ham for Thanksgiving?  I do remember a time or two when we did.  She was happy to hear that as she is hungry for ham and wants to go out and buy a ham.  Now my sis-in-law found out about this and was not happy.  She said “no ham because no one will eat turkey.”

Now, I don’t see what difference it makes.  Ham or turkey is fine with me.  Sure turkey is tradition, but whats more important, holiday tradition or family tradition?  Eating ham instead of turkey is not going to make it any less Thanksgiving than eating turkey.  Besides, I think just being together again is the highlight of the holiday.  I don’t care if I eat mac and cheese, with all the people I love around me, I am more than thankful.

What is poverty?

Many of us always ask why and what is poverty. When we say poverty, it is dealing of the condition of being poor. Being poor means a person is lacking of money or property or he is needy, penniless with little or no money or property. If you own nothing at all or having not enough necessities in your life then you will be consider poor or in the stage of poverty and it is the main problem of the whole world.

What causes Poverty?

Well first of all if you mismanage the money then it will be simply gonna be gone in months, days or seconds. If you abuse of oneself  like drugs, gambling, smoking, women, revelers or wild parties then you will be poor sooner or later if you cannot handle it.

Another thing is lack of knowledge. You need to have enough knowledge of all the things around you and what are the consequences in every thing that you made and you need to have a solution in every problem you take.

The worst one is laziness. If you practice this then don’t expect for any money that will come into your life. You need to think that if you will not work then you cannot eat and provide something for yourself and your family so bare in your mind that being lazy is one of the main reasons why poverty exist. If just people are hard worker except for people who are disable then you will not experience poverty.

The internet is so easily accessible by children nowadays. With the use of the laptop you can get free internet wifi and you don’t even have to set up an account. Therefore children can go online anytime they like and do anything that they want without you even knowing it. This poses a great risk for children. It’s not safe at all for under age children to do anything that they wanted online. Sometimes they can be lure in by predators and they won’t know it. At least adult know exactly what to look for but not underage kids.

It’s important that parent have a talking session about internet use with their children. After all they can even access the internet with their phone or even download stuff to their ipods. Children grow up fast in this day and age and most know about a lot of things that they shouldn’t need to worry about at those ages. We have seen teen getting pregnant at the age of 14 years old. This is kind of young to be having a baby but it’s not uncommon nowadays.

Children should focus on their schooling and worrying about being a kid instead of having to be exposing to weird stuff on the net and even weird people. Adults can handle the profanity online but not children. They often don’t even understand it a maybe even feel oppressed by it. The information that is available on the web could be too much for your child.

They need to know about it and how to use it at time but you should never let them browse it without your supervision because they can be going to website that are no good for them. Children talking in chat room are not a good thing either. There are plenty of predators waiting for a gullible kid. Most website allow kids to be as old as 13 to enter the site. We do see this on my space. There has been a lot of crime resulting from kids joining services on the net and meeting strangers.

Children that are under 18 years of age, you still are their legal guardian and you should watch over them and not only that you’re ultimately responsible for their well being and safety. If you allow them to venture too much on their own then you allow them to be at risk.

There are kids that grow up to be addicted to certain things on the net that are not good for their well being at all. Using the internet is a great thing but it could lead to some serious problems. It’s important that you really have a talking session with your children and tell them what you want them to avoid doing.

For example, you can tell them that they should avoid the chat room because they don’t know who is on the other screen and that they should never give out their contact information or decide to meet up with them. Predators know how to trick children or to pretend to be a good friend. They can offer your children money and things that children love. There are a lot of weird people on the chat room. People that are chatting should at least be 18 years of age or at least be wise enough to chat there.

Most parent nowadays even allow their little thirteen years old to do anything that they wanted on the net and sometimes this might not be in their best interest. It’s ok to have fun on the net but you should at least supervise your children on their activities so that they are safe. How can you do this? You should not allow a laptop in their room. You can hold the laptop and then give it to them when you are home so that you can supervise your children. They can have a pc with no internet if they need to type up their work.

If your children are under 18 you have every right as their legal guardian to supervise their work. Have you seen some movies rating and how they said that certain movies can only be watched with parental supervision? Even movies have this standard to protect children from being exposing to things that they’re not ready for or not even legal for them. Sometimes it’s not legal to impose certain things on underage kids.

The goal is to let your children use the net but it should be with your supervision. You can sit next to them while they’re searching and helping them along the way. You should never allow them to use it alone in their room by themselves. You can explain to them those certain places on the net are not safe for them and that they shouldn’t visit those sites. Good children should listen to you.

It’s just that most parents nowadays seem to let their kids do whatever they wanted on the internet and may regret it one day if their kids are missing. The internet is a safety hazard for some children. It’s alright for children who are beyond intelligent and know how to protect themselves and know how to be safe. We don’t have to worry about these children but the rest we do need to worry about. In the US children can do whatever that they wanted when they reach 18 years of age but until them it’s the parent’s responsibility to help keep their children safe.

What do you do if you have family conflict? It seems that nowadays most of us run into these questions a lot. There is a good of number of families that are dysfunctional and their children and wife suffer from the result of it. A bad family will ruin everything for a child. If you even look at history you will see that there are a great of number of people and even celebrities to mention have come from really bad families.

Some people manage to rise above their problems and other have not. It’s not easy trying to move out of your home and trying to support yourself. It’s one of the most difficult things you have to do in life. Yet, there is at least half of the population that is experiencing family problems. Why is this so when the family is the most loving thing for us? Strangers don’t take care of us and they don’t provide a roof over our head but the people that do help us are also giving us a hard time. It’s a paradox sometimes.

There are people who have so much family problems that they stop doing everything in life and fall apart over their problems. Some people go to the extreme of doing harmful things to themselves. This is not how it should be but it does happen all the time. You probably have seen enough of it.

What kind of problems do people have in the family? Most of the time is the issue of finance. People are stressed over money. They work hard and they don’t have much to flow around. They have to take care of many kids and they are just not happy. They work too much and they don’t have time for themselves.

One of the spouses doesn’t work and then things start to tension up. One of the reasons why family has problems is that it’s the issue of finance. If you ask people they will tell you that it’s over finance. I have seen my uncle’s family fall apart over finance. They can get really bad with money. Yes! Money comes in between all relationships.

One thing that you can do to help out your situation is to find out what the problem is and then work on it. There must be plenty of clues to find out what the problem is. It’s not that hard to figure out. Usually the dad works too hard and he get stressed out if your mom doesn’t work. He is working hard to provide for everyone and this is driving him to the ground. It can get really bad.

I have seen it with one of my rep at work. He did some physical harm to his wife and children after he got laid off from his job. It’s not that hard to find a job after having so much experience but I guess people really overact. They overact over a little thing. Just calm down and take a deep breath and start solving your problems instead of imposing it on others.

If you have at least gone through college they would have already taught you how to handle personal stress. Losing your job is a depressing thing but it’s not the end of the world. You can get unemployment benefit for up to one year and in the mean time you can find other work. You should save for a rainy day so that you don’t lose your mind when you lose your job. Some people live on pay check to paycheck and this is never the best solutions. Plan early and get ready for the unexpected. This is what most people would tell you and yet not a lot of people follow this advice. You never know when the hurricane is going to hit your town just like in Texas recently. A lot of people in Texas lost everything and now they’re barely starting over again. You never know when a natural disaster might hit your location and you could lose everything. The same with a job you will never know when you’ll get laid off so plan to save for that rainy day.

Family run into problems but one of those will mostly be based on financial problems. Couple fights over money. They fight over writing a will. They fight over each others spending habit. They get stressed out if there’s not enough money to flow around for their daily livings. Finance will always be the culprit of most family’s problems. What can you do to help? If only one spouse works then you can join force and get a job.

This will alleviate their stress and you’ll have more money flowing around. If you’re the children and you’re old enough to get a job then do so and help out your folks. Parents have to take care of children all of their lives and it get depressing sometimes. If your family has become a place where you can’t thrive anymore then move out to another place. Move in with your grandmother or your boyfriend. Do something about it but don’t sit around hoping for it to end. Take action and have control over your life.

What do you do when your baby just won’t stop crying? There are babies that won’t stop crying. You have this problem before as every other mother. Sometimes crying is a normal thing and sometimes it’s an indication of an illness that will need further examination by the doctor.

There are several factors that make a baby cry. You will have to check out what the problems are and fix it. You shouldn’t let your baby cry to sleep. Babies often cry if they are hungry, in pain, full diaper, or not being tightly wrapped. You can check to see if these are the problems and fix it.

Before you put your baby to bed just wash them so that they are not itchy or dirty. Feeling dirty and itchy could prevent a good sleep. Wrap them tightly in a blanket so that they feel secure like someone is holding them. You can also put on a new diaper so that they won’t fill it up quickly.

You can also feed them before they go to bed so that they don’t wake up hungry. If your baby is sick make sure you give them their pain medication or all other meds before they sleep so that their symptoms won’t bother them. Usually babies who are ill will wake up crying over their pain.

If you find them crying just take a quick look to see what the problem is. Check their diaper to see if it’s full and then change it and hopefully the fresh diaper will make them go back to sleep. Babies fill up their diaper very quickly. Your baby could be hungry if they’re crying. Check to see if they’re hungry by offering them some milk and if they’re eating it means that they are hungry.

Give them their pain meds if they’re crying it could be that they’re in pain. This is a possibilities if you’re baby is at the hospital. Most often they experience as much pain as adult. Baby cries when they’re not wrapped tightly. They feel like someone is not holding them. Just wrap them tightly and see what happens.

Babies sometimes are scare of the toys or lights hanging above their bed you can try to remove these as it may distract their sleep. You can remove the noise around them like turn off the music, TV or noisy air conditioner that are frightening sounds to them. They also may not be able to sleep with people or pet around them.

If you let the baby sleep with you or if you hold them that could really help them sleep well too. Babies like attention a lot. If they keep on crying after you have tried all the methods then you can try to talk to the doctor about it or have them examine your baby. One of my siblings couldn’t stop crying when he was a baby. He would cry days and nights and it turn out that he has a medical condition. You can check with the doctor to see what the problem is. You can stop baby from crying by changing their diaper, feeding them, wrapping them and giving them their medication.

Christmas is coming soon and we can start to plan for it now. Planning will give us more choices and allow us to make better buying decisions than waiting to the last minutes. Shopping centers are crowded during the holiday and it can get expensive too because they know you have to buy it.

Even though they have sales signs but the prices are inflated because of the holiday. Things are more expensive because they want to make money and they know that you’ll need it. You can avoid high cost by shopping early and tuck it away. It can be fun to shop for Christmas. You can get things done here and there so that you don’t end up in a long line during the Holiday.

Christmas shopping is not as hard as most people make it look like. The average person will have about 30 people that they need to shop for and this include their immediate family, friends, relatives and coworkers or exchange clubs. You can get all of these done within a week. It’s not that hard.

You just need to plan and do things more efficiently. Like the next time you’re out shopping you can buy something along for the people on your list. If you see something that is on sales or that you think they may like you can buy it and tuck it away for the coming month. You should try to get things done while you’re also doing something else. The more you can get done the better.

If you keep working at it soon you’ll have everyone on your list cover. There are certain things that you shouldn’t get for certain people and you should avoid those things. You want to buy them the present that they’ll love and not something that they need to return or give it away.

You probably know the people on your list well enough so just pay attention to what they like or what they have around them and buy those things. Don’t go off on that or else they can return their present. You don’t want to spend so much time shopping and then have them return it.

It should be easy. Just buy nice gifts that they will love and you’ll be fine. Have you heard lately about your wife wanting a vacation or you kids wanting a laptop? Keep those things in mind and if you can afford it then you should get it for them.

Things you should not get for your wife include tools, vacuum, sweaters, intimate wear and clothing. Women clothing is hard to fit and you should give them gift cards instead of clothing so that they don’t have to return it. Women don’t like tools and vacuum. These are men things. Intimate wear can offend them.

Things you should buy for your husband are tools, clothing, wine, cigars, watches, and add your own taste to it. Men in general are easier to buy gifts for then women. How about your children? This Christmas you can get them an I pod. Listening to music while they’re bore somewhere could be good. You can buy them a laptop so that they’ll have something to carry around and work on their college stuff. It’s better to buy children things that they can use for education.

Introduction

Building a strong family means that it is a family but what are the steps to make your family more stronger and solid? All you need to do is to improve the ABC of of the family and using this will make a perfect foundation of the family.

Acceptance - We should accept and understand the failures or defects of family members. Our life must go on. Always remember that without acceptance, everything will always be conflicts so give space.

Bonding - To build a strong family. One factor that you need to consider is having a good relationship between husband and wife and children.

Communication - You and your family should always have conversation and be open to each other.

Develop - Parent should help develop the talents of their children. Always support them on what they want and don’t force them what they really don’t want. I know some of the parents who decide for their children and that will be not good. Let him or her decide just guide them.

Encourage - Parents should always encourage their children to pursue their dreams and to aim high for their goals.

Friend - Parents shall not only maintain parent to children relationship but also develop their friendship.

God - Always make your children close to God to put their faith in God not to men.

If you’re looking for a fun and unique idea for your daughter’s next birthday party, why not try having a Photo Shoot party? Most girls enjoy posing for the camera, especially when they get to dress up or be made up pretty.

Start with invitations announcing your glamorous day. If you like, you can go with a theme suitable for your daughter’s age or interests, such as Princess or Fairies for younger girls or Hollywood or Top Model for older girls. Let them know that they will be dressing up and taking lots of pictures! You can also have just a general photo shoot with different kinds of props of your own choosing.

Begin to gather items for the girls to dress up in or use as props. Thrift stores are excellent for this, you can find old prom dresses, hats, jewelry, long gloves, sunglasses, etc. If it happens to be near Halloween, all the better. Wait until after Halloween when things are marked down and you can find princess tiaras, wands, boas, funky jewelry, makeup and all kinds of great stuff for really cheap.

Set up an area where you will take the pictures. Inside is best, where the lighting and weather can be controlled. You can use just a blank wall if you like, but props make the photos much more interesting. Even a simple chair or bench can be a lot of fun for silly or dramatic girls in front of a camera. Other items you can use could be colorful pillows, hanging strands of beads, stuffed animals, etc.

You can set up other “stations” also where the girls can get ready. One area for costumes, one for makeup, one for props, and so on. They can go one by one through each station as they get ready. The birthday girl gets to go first, of course! Be sure to have something else for the others to do while waiting their turn. Some may be entertained to just watch their friends, but a backup is always a good idea, especially for younger ones. Try a fun craft or simple game.

Enlist other moms to help. If you have friends that will be coming and don’t mind pitching in, use them to help coordinate outfits, apply makeup or just keep things in order. This can be a huge help in a situation that could get out of hand. Plus it will keep things moving faster.

Play some fun music to set the mood. Girls will feel even more like a ‘model’ if the atmosphere is there. Select age appropriate tunes to keep the energy up and the inspiration high.

A digital camera is highly recommended. This way, you can take lots of shots of each girl without worrying about wasting film. Another plus and really fun thing to do is to post the pictures online with www.snapfish.com or another photo website so they can go see all the pictures themselves and order some if they want. Place an inexpensive frame with a note in the goody bags letting the moms know where to go to see the pictures. Don’t forget to take a group shot as well!

If you have the opportunity, you can print out one picture for each girl before they leave as a souvenir or send one in a thank you note. Go with whatever works for you and whatever your birthday girl prefers. In any case, she and her friends will feel like beautiful stars for the day and your party will be remembered for a long time to come!

The times have changed dramatically, including the way we celebrate some of the holidays, since I was a child. Although I wasn’t raised in the “Over the river and through the woods” era, holidays are celebrated a lot different now, then they were 40 or 50 years ago.

We no longer have to get up at 5AM to stuff the turkey and get it into the oven so it’s done when the company arrives for dinner. Today we have turkeys with pop up timers to let us know exactly when they’re done. In addition to the electric and gas ranges we have to cook the bird in, there are now convection ovens, microwave ovens, deep fryer turkey cookers, and gas grills to get that bird all cooked up for dinner. You can even pre-order your whole Thanksgiving dinner and have it delivered, or pick it up yourself, and it’s fully cooked, if you so desire. Last, but not least, how about the Thanksgiving buffet at the local restaurant?

In addition to the meal, the entertainment aspect of the day has changed also. The men no longer sit in the living room and just visit, while the women stay in the kitchen and wash up the dinner dishes. There’s usually an array of football games on the two or three television sets the American home now has. The kids aren’t usually outside throwing snowballs, or making snow angels in the snow, like years past. If they aren’t on the computer, or playing on the playstation, or watching a movie on the vcr, they’re probably talking on their cellphones.

Many of our larger malls have stores that are open on Thanksgiving Day, so this may be a time to start your Christmas shopping, instead of waiting for the day after Thanksgiving Day sales to start.

Technology, electronics, and the space age, are all signs of our modern times. They have replaced the old fashioned turkey, stuffing, yams, and pumpkin pie Thanksgiving Day of years gone by, somewhat. I kind of miss those sit-down dinners, where the finest dinnerware was set out, Grandpa carved the turkey, and we all held hands and said grace, thanking the good lord for all our blessings.

In some homes, they still celebrate the day in a similar fashion to the way their ancestors did, but in many homes, it just seems to be another day. Football, the internet, and shopping have replaced some of the family togetherness, that used to be such an important part of the day. Our grand kids are constantly complaining how bored they are if the television isn’t blaring, or they aren’t playing some video game.

The good old days style of Thanksgiving may have gone by the wayside, but I still miss Grandma’s pumpkin pie with “real” whipping cream, instead of “coolwhip”.