Managing time is very important in our lives!  We often have the habit of doing things later, later, and later until you forgot to do the task on the time you should work on it making you unable to do other tasks on the line.

1.  ALWAYS BRING WITH YOU A SMALL PEN AND A PAPER.

This is for you to write everything that comes into your mind and be able to include it on the future list of DO’s and DON’Ts!

2.  EVERY TIME YOU THINK OF SOMETHING, DO IT RIGHT AWAY.

We often have the body clock and body alarm that warns and reminds us to do the things we must do.  These are the things that we often forget and won’t be able to make it up if make no actions.

3.  WRITE DOWN, THE NIGHT BEFORE, EVERY TASK YOU HAVE TO COMPLY FOR THE NEXT DAY!

Write down itinerary before every routine to save time.  New ideas must be written down to a small piece of paper to be done after your daily planned activities or better yet include it to the future to DO list.

4.  ALWAYS PLAN YOUR WORK, AND WORK ACCORDING TO YOUR PLAN.

This is very important!  Always plan your work for a systematic result.  Systematic results will give you peace of mind and will make you free from stress!  To work according to your plan will make your life more easy than the habitual complicated life!  Let us manage our time wisely and live a better life!

Learning another language is part of our homework assignment, I always have that kind of impression when I was in school. Knowing another language other than my own, might need a lot of practices, and memorizing, but eventually it might help my career in the future in this globalizing market. So I picked Spanish, and to practice it with my Mexican friends. I never thought that it helps me to find the girl I want to be with.

Her name was Maria, we met at a Mexican club on a Saturday night when I was visiting my friends. They brought me to a local Mexican dancing club. Maria was a waitress working there. I had a good impression on her on the first sight; but at the same time, I was too shy to talk to her. One reason is that I don’t speak good Spanish; I afraid that she won’t understand me. Second reason is that she might not like me. I was encouraged by my friends to take up a chance to approach her, and having a conversation. Our first conversation was committed to Spanish, and she didn’t fully understand. So she turns it to English, which is more convenient on me. But she told me that she doesn’t speak much of the English, but she will try her best.

Ever since then, I become a regular customer to that club. I just trying to see her on the weekend. Since we both have some sort of language barrier, I bought a Spanish / English dictionary and a book of Spanish daily conversation guide, in trying to learn as much as I can, so I can talk to her fluently in her language. To improve my Spanish, I also trying to practice with my Mexican friends, and ask them whatever I need to know in conversation. Through these practice and learning, I knew at least some useful conversations and a lot of vocabularies. Sometimes, I even went to Blockbuster to rent the Spanish movies, for the listening practice sake.

It was ongoing like this for while. Finally, one day she asked me to exchange cell phone number, and I was exhilarated. she called me the next two days. At our first date, I went to pick her up; and she introduced me to her mom and step father. I was nervous then, because I had to converse them in Spanish. And I did try my best, at least they understand me. Ever since then, we go out a lot; watch movies or go to malls. Sometimes, I would play Mexican music I found on the Internet, and she always ask if I understand them. Surely I don’t, but I told her that I am learning Spanish. She tried her best to interpreted the songs in English for me. And she also taught me some corrected Spanish conversations.

Learning to speak another language is not a easy task. But trying to learn a new language, might bring your to a new adventure, and a great adventure.

Swedish researcher have discovered the brain´s own repair shop, which makes the brain younger and also repair damage in the brain. But we need help to keep the shop going. The key words in brain training are variety and curiosity. When something starts to go on routine, you should try to change your routine to give the brain a challenge.

1. Play games. Crosswords, Sudoku and Nintendo helps the brain to stay awake. Games that require logical thinking is good exercise for the brain, but not more than 15 minutes a day.

2. Meditation. Meditation is one of the best individual events you can devote yourself.

3. Eat right. Fish, nuts, flaxseed, rapeseed oil and olive oil, all in moderate doses, has positive effects on the brain.

4. Read something you don´t usually read. Learn a new writer, or read about a subject that is unknown to you.

5. Switch off the TV. Average people are watching TV several hours a day. To watch TV makes your body and soul passive. So witch off the TV and do something else.

6. Train your body. When you move your body, the brain must keep track of a lot muscles, arms and legs. When the brain shall help you to keep your balance, and move the body parts you want to move, it must make estimates of distance, location and weight. The brain works when you sweat and feel comfortable with it. So vary your exercise, and you vary the challenges the brain exposed.

7. Tell stories for each other. To tell stories from real life or with the help of the imagination is something your brain likes.

8. Learn something new, preferably every day. Curiosity is one of the largest fitness factors.

9. Do small changes every day. All people like routines, and many have the same interest throughout life. So try to change things every day. All small changes make your brain to be alert.

10. Oxygen and water. Make sure to drink properly. A small water scarily in the body affects direct your performance. The brain needs a lot of oxygen. Make sure to come out in the fresh air for a while each day.

Almost every girl wants her boyfriend to do different things to make her feel special.  Things that are a surprise, something she won’t expect to happen or get from her boyfriend.  Some girls want something from his heart not some gift bought in the store.  Dr. Chapman stated in his book “The Five Love Languages” that one language is the language of gifts.  While some people have a primary language of gifts, others don’t, but a surprise gift can still mean and say a lot.  Some of the best gifts are the ones that don’t cost a thing, the things he creates on his own to express how he (or she) feels.  A good idea that he mentioned that I like is each person write down a list of surprises that you would like and each person try to do each of the surprises on the list in random order at random times.  Here are some ideas of random surprises that you can do off of a list.

Read a poem:  Poetry is one of the best ways a person can express their love, and back in the day of the classic literature (Brownings, Dickenson etc) poetry was one of the main things a man did to try and woo a woman.  Shakespeare is most known for his love sonnets “Shall I Compare Thee” is probably his most famous.  What you can do is pick a poem that you feel expresses your love the best: for me it was “How Do I Love Thee” by Elizabeth Barrett Browning.  For an added surprise and effort you can write a poem and then read it.  From a girl’s perspective having a poem read to you that your boyfriend wrote is one of the highest forms of feeling special.  To see that he took the time to write you a poem says a lot.

Love Letters:  This day and age writing a love letter doesn’t happen all that often, unless a girl writes one to her boyfriend.  But honestly men: how many of you write a love letter to your girlfriend?  Seeing a guy’s feelings on paper shows passion on love because it takes a lot to be able to put your love into words; sometimes it can be impossible, but even simply saying “words can’t justify how I feel for you” can go a long way.  Even in an email getting a note that says something like “i appreciate you” or “you don’t know how special you are to me.”  But what I am talking about is an actual letter in your handwriting, that may be more than one page.  Put it in envelope with her name on it and leave it on the pillow or in her lunch to find.  Think of how special that would be.

Draw a cheesy picture:  Okay I know this may sound a little high schoolish, but it is still cute to find a little picture of a heart with initials in them.  I know some girls do that a lot, heck I am one of them.  But to have a guy draw a cheesy picture for you is so cute and sweet.  It meant a lot to me when my boyfriend drew an eye, then a heart, then a sheep (ewe) to be a pictogram for “I love you.”  You can draw a picture in the paint application on the computer and then send it in an email something like your own personal e-card.  Some of the love e-cards can be so impersonally and generic that making one of your own could be cute even if the pictures don’t move and it doesn’t have sound that goes with it.

Creative “I love you”:  Simply saying “I love you” all the time may not be enough all the time.  I love you can be overused sometimes.  I think coming up with unique ways of saying I love you could become a new game: like who can come up with the most creative way of saying those three little words.  You can use foreign languages like “Je T’aime” or other languages.  You can like I said before draw little pictograms or even a play on words somehow.  You can use your own personality and interests to make it more interesting.  Some guys would write a song, while others would cook a romantic dinner.  There are other ways you can come up with like little cut out letters spelling it out and you can leave it on the pillow or in the kitchen.

Surprise Dances:  When it is raining outside take her hand and lead her out into the rain for a romantic dance in the rain.  Of course you only want to do this when the weather outside is warm, you don’t want to dance in the rain and get sick right?  Dancing in the rain can be so romantic especially if you do it under the stars.  You can also drive to an empty lot like at a high school and dance under the stars.  I have always had the dream of being taken to the parking lot of the school, where a picnic is set up and a radio.  As we dance he places a crown on my head and tells me it’s my prom and I was his prom queen (I never went to prom).  Guys could always do that: every woman wants to feel like a queen and giving her a special prom where she is the queen would be something special.

Unexpected hugs and kisses:  Sure everyone expects hugs and kisses when we part and come together again.  Getting an unexpected kiss or hug is a simple surprise, especially if it is done around friends or family.  For example you could be out with a group for friends and while in a conversation you can lean over and kiss her cheek, it is the smallest way to say “I love you and in this crowd you are important to me.”  We ladies want to feel important and special and doing different thing while in public helps us feel special and important.  It doesn’t have to be a big display of affection, but something simple like hugging her from behind or a small kiss on the cheek.  Whisper in her ear that you love her and how beautiful she is will almost always put a smile on her face.

Pick Wildflowers: While on your way to see her you can stop by the side of the road in the spring or summer and pick her a handful of flowers.  They are as wonderful as store bought flowers, but also more special because you took the time to stop and pick her flowers.  It shows you were thinking of her and could also say that you are always thinking of the woman in your life.  Many times the wildflowers that you pick can’t be bought in the store, so it would be special and unique because many guys can go out a buy a dozen roses or so, but to take the time to stop and pick roses says a lot.  When my boyfriend pulled the flowers he picked from behind his back I couldn’t help but smile even though I don’t like flowers all that much.

Make Time For Her: This may not sound like something big, but some guys are so incredibly busy that there may not be a lot of time to spend together.  So making time for her makes her feel special and important.  Don’t go to that band practice one night in order to take her out to dinner, or don’t go to that game so you can sit under the trees and watch the leaves fall.  Some couples take a day out of the week and make that night their “date” night where no one and nothing else can interrupt them.  No other plans are allowed to be made for that night because that is their time together.  That shows that both parties are invested into the relationship and willing to do what it takes to make each other feel special and loved.  Instead of doing something on a normal ‘date’ day, take time off some other day and surprise her for dinner or something along those lines.

Be interested in her interests:  Every one has their own list of interests and things they like to do in their spare time.  It could be writing, sports, cards, dancing, whatever you name it.  One way to make your spouse feel special is to show interest in the things that interest them.  If she likes poetry, go with her to a poetry reading, or if he is in a band or male choir go to his concert with him.  If he plays in a sport go to one of the events and cheer so loud for him, show him your support.  If she loves to dance suggest taking a dance class together.  Interests and hobbies are important to everyone and when someone you love and care about shows an interest in your interests and hobbies it shows they really care and want to know more about you and be with you whenever they can be.

Many of the things you can do as a surprise could cross many languages like quality time and words of affirmation.  Surprises are always great when they come from someone you love.  Sometimes people can feel like the love has plateaued or things are getting strained or that it just got too comfortable.  When you do different things to surprise the one you love with different things like poems, letters, and small gestures of love go a long way and help keep the passion there and help keep the love strong.  Different things that you do help ignite the passion and keep it fired.  Having a relationship can take work and time, you can’t just let it be and take things for granted.  Every girl needs to feel loved and special.  These things and the surprises that you can come up with will help keep your girlfriend (and boyfriends they like to feel special too right?) feel special.

Vincent Robert Capodanno was a soldier of extraordinary courage.  He was born on February 13, 1929 in Staten Island, New York.  He was a catholic priest that graduated from the Maryknoll Seminary in 1949.   Father Capodanno initially worked as a Missionary travelling the world and serving in countries like Taiwan, China, and Korea.

After serving several years in foreign countries where he helped to build schools and establish catholic parishes, Father Capodanno opted to embark on a career much more challenging.  Father Capodanno requested service as a chaplain in the United States Marine Corps.

Father Capodanno attended Officer Candidates School and in the midst of the Vietnam war was assigned to the 7th Marine Division, in 1966.  His service during that year was at the height of the war, when the fighting was intense and casualties were high.

Father Capodanno was not your ordinary chaplain.  The majority of chaplains were kept away from the real dangers of combat, and usually served in areas of relative safety.  They usually conducted religious services and counseled weary and tired troops at base camps.

Father Capodanno was a different breed of Marine Chaplain.  He was always in the midst of the fighting, going out on missions with his beloved Marines.  There was no safe area for the chaplain, only the front lines where the Marines needed him the most.  As a chaplain, he led, inspired, and constantly exposed himself to enemy fire while attempting to console and administer the “last rites,” to critically injured Marines.  The Marines loved their chaplain and thus named him, “the grunt padre.”  The word “grunt” is a term used to describe combat infantryman.

Upon completion of his initial tour of duty in Vietnam, Father Capodanno requested an extension of duty and was then assigned to the 5th Marine Division.  Once again Father Capodanno, fearless and resigned to serve alongside his battle weary Marines, was immersed in some of the worse combat of the Vietnam war.

On September 4th, 1967, in the Que Son Valley, soldiers of the 5th Marine Division found and engaged a large unit of North Vietnamese, approximately 2,500 of them near the village of Dong Son.  It was only 4:30 in the morning, but the fighting was savage and intense, some of it at very close quarters.  The Marines of Company D were far out-numbered and in desperate need of reinforcements.  The casualties mounted and there were desperate attempts by medevac choppers to evacuate the dead and dying, but intense ground fire kept the choppers from landing.

As the battle continued, there were 26 marine casualties by mid morning.  The situation was becoming dire and in an attempt to avoid being overrun by the North Vietnamese, an additional Company of Marines joined the battle.  By 9:15 am, the fighting was so intense that yet another request for help arrived in the form of two more Marine company’s.

During the early hours of the fighting, Father Capodanno monitored the progress of his Marines from the Headquarters operations room at his base camp.  He felt helpless and isolated from his beloved Marines and boarded a helicopter with other soldiers heading for the battle.  Whenever his Marines needed him, he was always there, and this was no exception, they needed him now more than ever.

Father Capodanno and the troops reinforcing the already beseiged Marines joined the battle just outside the small village of Chau Lam.  They immediately came under horrific and intense fire from the large contingent of North Vietnamese soldiers.  They were caught in a large, open area and the fighting was fierce.  The North Vietnamese soldiers were so close that the Marines at times, engaged their enemy in intense “hand to hand” combat.

Father Capodanno completely ignored the danger of the situation, as he ran in the face of intense enemy fire to help his Marines.  Father Capodanno, undeterred in the midst of the battle, continued to tend to the wounded and dying.  Going from man to man, he prayed, cradled, and when needed, gave comfort and consolation to his dying Marines.   The soft words of comfort and prayer from Father Capodanno would be the last words some of these Marines would ever hear.

As the fighting progressed, Father Capodanno was severely wounded in the face and hit by a round that almost severed his entire hand.  Still the Chaplain continued on his mission.  Father Capodanno spotted a lone Marine that was gravely wounded only a few feet from an enemy machine gun position.  Father Capodanno started for the soldier but was hit and killed trying to save the wounded Marine.

Father Vincent Robert Capodanno, a Marine Corps legend, was posthumously awarded the Medal of Honor on December 27, 1968 for his courage and service.

Langston Hughes is one of the best poets in the world of poetry.  His work says a lot about life as an African American and the struggles the culture had to go through to get where they are today.  Langston Hughes words leap off the page and make the reader think and contemplate what he has said.  He has many different types of poetry; one of which is called a blues poem.  Blues poetry have a strict pattern: one long line, repeated, and a third line that rhymes with the first two.  Sometimes the second line is repeated, but altered slightly.  The theme of the blues poetry are the same: being in the midst of trouble, friendliness, hunger, and disappointment in love.  Langston Hughes is probably one of the best blues poet I have ever read.

Hughes’ poem “Po’ Boy Blues” has every one of the themes mentioned above.  He talks about the troubles he finds and struggling to make it in the North.  Then he talks about meeting someone and falling in love only to have her leave him and “almost lose ma mind.”  He uses the dialect that African American’s may have used during the Harlem Renessaince.  He starts the poem out saying “When I was home de sunshine seemed like gold.”  To him everything seemed good and happy when he was home.  Where home was in this poem we are unsure of he doesn’t say, but it was probably in the south since he mentions the North being cold.  To him just having another day in the sun brought happiness and light to a world of darkness.  Sunshine is a symbol of happiness of gold of course a symbol of riches so when he was home with families and friends the narrator could have felt like a rich man.  When he was home the sunshine felt as abundant and as precious as gold.  Then being in the North or even simply America it didn’t seem as abundant or clouded by hatred and other things that would make the world around seem cold and heartless.

After the lines about the sunshine being gold he says “since I came up North de whole wide world’s turned cold.”   This line gives the sense that the world seemed completely different from what he knew at home.  It was cold and dark something that he wasn’t used to.  At this point the reader could always speculate why the world seemed cold; maybe he seen new things, things he never wanted to see probably more of how segregated everything was and the African Americans were being treated, not better than he had hoped.  The next stanza starts out saying “I was a good boy never done wrong….” and ends with “..But this world is weary an’ de road is hard an’ long.”  The reader gets the idea that the narrator did everything he was told, everything he was supposed to do and never did anything wrong or to get himself into trouble.  Now he is wondering why the road is so hard now.  It is like all of life is a struggle.  It goes with the idea that the grass isn’t always greener.  One could think that being free wasn’t really “free” after all because there was more struggle now than before.

Saying that the road is long and hard gives insight to the long road ahead to finally finding equality.  It will take years for the African Americans to get the equality they deserved and Hughes most likely saw how long and hard it would be which could be what this whole poem is about.  The struggles to find equality and that everything wasn’t always better as people may have thought.  His poem could have been a way to make people listen and see the struggle that was going on a take interest and try to make things better.  Hughes knew the struggle and pain his people would face in the future.  I think his saying “I’ve been a good boy” makes me think that he felt that doing as he was told and working hard to get to a certain point meant he and others deserved the equality for the work the did, and he was right!  His third stanza tells of how hard it was to get that equality and some of the consequences of trying hard to fight and get what he deserved.

The beginning of the third stanza “I fell in love with a gal” makes me wonder if the gal is really a gal and not a symbol for the idealistic American so many people look for everyday.  Many have referred to America in terms of a woman, saying “she is a powerful country” or “her people” so why wouldn’t one fall in love with a gal that is represented of America and the dream of the perfect American life.  The last line of the stanza he says “an’ almost lose ma mind.” Could it be that trying to achieve that perfect American life as an African American was such a struggle he almost lost his mind.  Or that realizing that almost no African Americans could achieve that dream during that time was possible could make one lose their mind.  I think Hughes was trying to make people see the damage the struggle had not just in a physical way, but also mentally and emotionally.  Struggling for your own equality for work, education, and more had to have been draining in all aspects that would make anyone lose their minds.  The third stanza as well as the whole poem could have been full of symbolism which is the point of poetry isn’t it?

Langston Hughes ends the poem saying “I’s so weary I wish I never been born.”  Could he be saying the hatred and pain he saw day in and day out for himself and his people made him just not want to exist, to never be born.  I have to wonder if Hughes knew of the impact of his poetry as he was writing it.  The last line is a powerful one, probably the most powerful of the poem.  He talks of struggle and falling in love with the idea of a perfect America, yet the struggle and hard work to get there and fight for what’s right was so draining, he felt it would have been better if he just had never been born.  What a feeling to have while struggling to achieve the rights and equality not just for yourself, but an entire culture.  The beginning of the stanza is simply “weary weary, weary early in de morn.”  Morning is supposed to be a time of being refreshed and rejuvenated.  A time when you feel reday to take on the world, but when you are really taking on the world or what seems to be the world, morning isn’t a time of being refreshed, but a time of being so weary of having to face it all over again.

Langston Hughes’ poem is one of many powerful ones he wrote contained in the book “Dream Keeper.”  His work made such a difference in the world; he changed the mindset of so many people.  He made people see what was right and what needed to be done.  Langston Hughes may not have know the power his poetry had, but he molded the future and made it a better place and opened the doors for many young people.  He showed with hard work and determination, anything and everything is possible.  Reading Langston Hughes’ poetry takes you into a world you have never known and seen.  You will see poetry at it’s best and what it should be, Langston Hughes is one of the best poets and his work will be remember for a long time.  Take the time and read at least one of his poem, you will never think the same and you will want to read more.  I guarantee it.

INTRODUCTION

We all know that English is the International language of all. This language is the way so that all the people around the world can communicate well but how will you improve your skills more and what aspects that is needed to make your English good?

There are many different students from around the world who wants to Improve their English and some of them need help. In our country, about 88% percent of students are poor in English.

MY STORY

English is my second language and my first language is called “Visayans” and you can found that language in Mindanao, Philippines. I learned how to speak and write English in the school and by watching American movies, I improve my English more. I bought lots of English books and reading them every night and now, I can speak freely to all the things that I want to express using the English language. One reason why I want to improve my English is because I want to be a good songwriter. I am writing all my works in English and few in my own language and This language is really useful when I am talking to foreigners.

EXPANDING YOUR VOCABULARY

By expanding our vocabulary, It will be easy for us to understand a sentence. One way to expand your vocabulary is the Dictionary. This vocabulary book is really useful on how to understand the words that you’ve never encountered.

For Example:

OZONE is a what form? Answer: Form of useful oxygen

By the use of the dictionary, you can easily read and understand the meaning of the particular word that is given to you and with this, you can easily create a sentence. Learning different kinds of word is a very good way to expand your English so keep reading dictionaries and understand the meaning of every word. This will also help you to improve your spelling errors so keep reading and reading.

DEVELOP YOUR READING SKILLS

Reading is important and by reading everyday in every words that you encounter will develop your skills in English and understand them clearly. If your reading then you can easily follow instructions that is given to you and that is really important in our various tasks in life like in school, solving problems, instruction for enrolling, taking entrance examination or board exam, performing some complicated experiments, doing lessons and writing compositions.

MASTER THE LANGUAGE STRUCTURE

What are the language structure? these are the “simple past tense”, “the past continuous Tense”, Present tense, “Future Time”.

Past Perfect Tense- When we say past perfect tense, it is formed with the helping verb had and the past participle form of the verb. It’s usually describes the action that took the place at some time earlier in any other action or another action.

Past continuous tense- it is formed with the past form of the be and the ing of the main verb.

Simple present tense - it expresses action that is taking place or a state that exist at that good moment.

Future Time- The concept of future time is expressed in many ways like using Will, next year, soon and more.

EXERCISES:

Some examples to master your vocabulary:

Coal oil, club house, clothes, cobbler, coast

End, energy, English, enmesh, enough, entertain

Geisha, gasket, gargle, garment, garland, garnish

Improve, impress, impotent, impostor,

Look for the meaning of every word and try to build a sentence on your own. Keep reading the words and scan some books so that you will familiarize them and then it will be easier for you.

Is there such a thing as a real secret?  Secrets, those private matters that are hush hush and sometimes only known by one or two people are what has often rocked the world when revealed.  I remember distinctly being in a class a long time ago.  The professor was telling us about a group of people who met to discuss their unsolved crimes.  The purpose of the clandestine meeting was to tell how each person was able to pull off the “perfect crime”,  which had baffled the police and authorities to the extent that they remained  enigmas for years.  The people who committed these crimes were now bold enough to meet to disclose their clever schemes.  It was understood and agreed upon  that no one was to go outside of the circle and tell anyone, not even their spouses. 

Well, of course, because the schemes were too good to be kept confidential, each person was eventually arrested for the unsolved crime he/she had committed.  The pact to not discuss the schemes outside of the circle was slowly broken .  Some of them shared with their spouses what they had heard,  and their spouses rehearsed the gross scenarios with others, and they shared it with still others, until the widened exposure resulted in everyone’s arrest. 

  Why do people keep secrets?  There are several reasons for keeping secrets:  : 

a. embarrassment
b. punishment for  criminal behavior
c. shame and disgrace
d. indecency
e. family incrimination  or blots on one’s good reputation 
f. fear or reprisal
g. fear of rejection or hatred
h. personal or sensitive information leaks
i. compromising confidential or sealed information
j. the possibility that such information that can be used against you or another person        
k. threats if information is disclosed  

These are just some of the reasons people work hard to keep something secret.  Even small children keep secrets from their parents for any of the above mentioned reasons.  As a person grows and matures, they find ways to keep their secrets locked behind the vaults of their minds.  We call this putting things on the back burner.  But are they ever on the back burner?  I maintain that some secrets serve to function as plagues to our lives and progress.

Are there good secrets?  Yes, there are good secrets.  People who are philanthropists often request that their gifts and donations be given anonymously.  I call these good secrets.  Even Christmas presents are sometimes given anonymously by agencies who want to share in the Christmas spirit.  These good secrets hold the mystique for human curiosity, and wonderment.  Who doesn’t like to guess about the giver of  such gifts? 

Are there bad secrets?  Of course, many.  They exist like rushing water behind a dam.  If ever the dam is broken, the secrets flow out to cause embarrassment, collateral damage, and confusion.  Have you ever heard of people who decided to turn over a new leaf in their lives.  They, perhaps moved to a new location, changed their name, and made good their promise to themselves to reform their lives.  Even so, the secrets of the pass often come to haunt them.  They really can never live a normal life without the fear that someone from their pass may discover them.  This has happened, and again, a good life was exposed, and sometimes disabled.  On the other hand, others have been uncovered only to find that their new life has been so prolific, that it made little difference. 

When people wish they were a nail or fly on the wall, they are expressing the idea of listening in on conversations to which others are not privy.  They would be able to listen to many secret things.  Today, with technology, many people get their wish to hear those private conversations, or hear one  even talking to himself/herself.  That’s how advanced we have gotten, however, we still have not been able to discover every hidden or secret thing.   I use to worry about not knowing a lot of secrets.  However, the Bible gave me the assurance I needed.  “There is nothing covered, that shall not be revealed; neither nid, that shall not be known.”  Luke 12:2.  And then in Ecclesiastes 12:2 is the revelation that “God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil.”  Right before my eyes I could see that God knows everything– and that includes all secrets.  So, actually we are getting away with nothing even though we may not be rewarded or punished by our peers presently. God is our judge, and all of our deeds will be brought before him.  We are therefore, accountable to Him.  It makes complete sense then to have secrets, but it makes better sense to realize that there will a time of reckoning. 

Secrets, then, are not really secrets.  They are deeds and words that are simply buried for a time.   They are all exposed to God, though sometimes hidden from mankind.  Just as the criminals mentioned earlier felt confident that they had gotten away with their misdeeds, hidden secrets can lead us to deceive ourselves.  I don’t suppose anyone would like all of their secrets brought out of their boxes and placed on the table.  The greatest consolation I find when I think about secrets is that God alone will keep our secrets secure.  If our secrets have brought reproach and shame, we may tell Him alone, and He will restore and revive us.  And like happy parents who want to say, “Surprise!” to their children on their birthday, God will give us the happy surprise of forgiving all of our secret mistakes, and He will give us His love and guidance to transcend those mistakes of the past in order to live a life of dignity, hope and inspiration.    If you are talking about secrets– that my friends, is no secret!  

Abraham Maslow in 1954 had classified the human wants in five levels according to their priority in our lives. All needs cannot be satisfied at the same time. Therefore needs have been segregated into five types according to their importance in our lives which are as follows:

Maslow’s Needs Classification

Level 1: Physiological/Biological Needs: Air, water, food, shelter, sleep, etc.

Level 2: Security Needs: Safety, security,

Level 3: Social Needs: Love, admiration, family, relationship, belongingness, affection, friendship, etc.

Level 4: Esteem Needs: Status, self-respect, self-reliance, supremacy, etc.

Level 5: Self-Actualization Needs: knowledge, truth, advancement, growth, achievement, etc.

Now every person will try to satisfy the wants at the lowest level first before satisfying the needs at the second level. After satisfying the needs at the second level he moves on to the level 3 and so on.

A person feels dejected and disappointed when he is unable to accomplish resources for the satisfaction of these needs. An employer can assure an employee that he shall be able to fulfill his needs if he works sincerely and with dedication. He can thus win the confidence of the employee and motivate him to give his best performance towards achieving the objectives of the organization and ultimately fulfilling his personal needs as well.

Even after decades of its introduction, the theory is equally useful in classifying the human wants and motivating human being towards better performance.

Most people that are not matched up with the right person or anyone start to wonder after a while if they are ever going to find the right person for them.  The biggest mistake is worrying about it because when you’re worried you can miss what is right in front of you.  Another on I’ve seen is staying with someone that makes you miserable just because you don’t want to be by yourself.  When you are with someone it makes you inaccessible to most people that would be worth being with and they will stay out of the picture and you could never meet them.

The best thing that you can do for yourself and your relationships with other people is to have enough respect for yourself to actually make yourself happy, because when you’re happy your relationships go to a whole new level.

Because people who are in the situation know it better than anyone else but are often blind to somethings here are a few things that you can look for to make sure you are where you want to be.

* When you go out do they want to come with you?

If the answer is usually yes then you have someone that wants to be involved in your world and enjoy things with you not just wait around until you get home to hear about what you did.

If the answer is usually no then you have someone who is more worried about their own stuff than your together stuff.

*Will they let you sleep in their clothes if you can fit in them?

Not everyone dates in the same body type but for those that have a partner that you can share clothes with but if they will let you sleep in their clothes it means they are comfortable with you and they don’t mind sharing.

If they don’t let you sleep in their clothes then they like their stuff to stay their stuff and they may have trouble meshing into a mutual living situation.

* Will they do things with you just because they know you want to do it even if they don’t want to do it?

When your partner goes to movies, events, or hiking with you even though they don’t really want to then they would rather spend time with you doing something that they may not be too thrilled about than stay home or where ever by themselves doing things that they want to do.  That is a very good sign.

If they are unwilling to sacrifice a day or two doing something that you like to do just so they can do what they want to do or even do nothing means they are not very likely to put your needs first when it’s most important to you.

There are also the simple things like do they make you really happy?  Not just in the do they know what to buy you when they do something stupid but do they really truly make you happy?  Do you miss them when you’re not with them to the point where you want to call them every five minutes just to hear their voice?  Its the little things that add up to a great relationship and keep the relationship  going for a long time to come.

Butterflies and giddiness doesn’t last forever but they should warm your heart when you see them at the end of the day.  You should be comfortable enough to not have to talk all the time and you should always know where you stand with them.