I find the dating scene to be so complicated and scary. Most people in our society today are involved with online dating. But there are so many possibilities of becoming targets. And what I mean by targets is, victims of rapists, abusers, or thiefs! What should a person do if they find themselves in a position where they like someone, but they’ve met online, and are unsure of what percautions to take? Here are some safety tips for you to fall back on.

1. Always meet your interest in a public place. If they tell you they don’t like public places for
some reason or another. Leave them alone! They are probably up to no good.

2. Get as much information as you can about your interest before you meet. Address, Place
of employment, Bank, etc., and check up on this information before meeting them. You need to
know that they are being honest and up front with you from the start.

3. Bring a friend to watch over you. This friend should not be joining you, but be off to the side
close by, taking pictures. This friend should get a picture of their car, license plate number,
the interest themselves, etc. They won’t know who you know (unless you have their
face plastered on the website you met them on).

4. Don’t forget to bring your cell phone, which hopefully has voice activation. If at any point you
start feeling uncomfortable with his advances, you can just reach inside your purse and push
the side of your phone and start recording. I give this advice, because if you decide you want
to file charges against him for harassment, the police will need some kind of proof.

5. Never give them too much information. Don’t get into bank accounts, where your kids go to
school (it’s none of their business unless they want to start paying their child support), how
much income you make, where you keep your valuables in the home (they could follow you
home and break in while your gone, or worse, sleeping!)

It’s a very unsafe world these days, and people are becoming harder and harder to trust. I know…I’ve made this mistake. And it almost cost me my life! Worse yet, I didn’t have the smarts at the time to take these precautions, and the police had very little to go on. I never did catch my attacker.

Be safe…not sorry!

Who decides when a parent needs to let go?  We recently ran into this situation a few weeks ago.  Our daughter is 22 years old and she just moved out.  She took ill one day and needed to go to the ER.  She does not have a car, so she called mom and dad.  We ended up sitting for many hours in the ER with her.  My husband was scheduled to work that day, so, from the ER, he called his supervisor to let her know that he would be late as he is in he ER with his daughter and the docs can’t figure out what is wrong with her.  The supervisor said fine, just keep me updated.  When we finally got out of the ER and were on our way home, my husband called his supervisor again to let her know that since there was only about 2 hours of work left, he would take this as a vacation day.  You see, we live an hour from his work, so by the time he would have gotten there, he would have worked an hour then turned around and went home.

My husband went in to work the next day and was called into the office.  He was told that if it has nothing to do with his wife or handicapped son that lives at home, he is not to take off of work.  They said that “your daughter no longer lives at home and is an adult now and has to learn to take care of herself.”  I was appalled when my husband came home and told me this.  So, in other words, if my other two kids who do not live at home anymore are dying, then he can go to them and take off of work to care for them.  Yeah right!

Who decided that they were the authority on parenting.  Who are they to tell me when to let go of my kids?   l love my kids and they mean the world to me.  They always will.  If they are sick or not, I am going to go to them whenever they need me.  Yes, they have to learn to live on their own, and they are, that doesn’t mean that I can’t help them out once in a while.  Especially when it comes to their health.  I think was my husband supervisor did was uncalled for.  Let see what she does the next time one of her kids gets sick and has to go to the ER.

We are in the process of planning a very large Thanksgiving celebration with my husbands family.  When all of our children were little, we would get together every year for every holiday.  Then as all the kids grew up, some went their own way.  We have some on each side of the country and some with significant others that require their attention at the holidays too.  So, this year, we found out that the ones who no longer live near home are able to come home for Thanksgiving.  We have decided to plan to have everyone together again to celebrate the holiday like we used to.  We used to number around 12.  Now we grew to almost 30.

My mother-in-law called me last week to talk to me about this planned dinner.  We are renting a hall because no one has a big enough house to hold everyone and cook.  What my mother-in-law wanted to know is if we have ever had ham for Thanksgiving?  I do remember a time or two when we did.  She was happy to hear that as she is hungry for ham and wants to go out and buy a ham.  Now my sis-in-law found out about this and was not happy.  She said “no ham because no one will eat turkey.”

Now, I don’t see what difference it makes.  Ham or turkey is fine with me.  Sure turkey is tradition, but whats more important, holiday tradition or family tradition?  Eating ham instead of turkey is not going to make it any less Thanksgiving than eating turkey.  Besides, I think just being together again is the highlight of the holiday.  I don’t care if I eat mac and cheese, with all the people I love around me, I am more than thankful.

Introduction

Building a strong family means that it is a family but what are the steps to make your family more stronger and solid? All you need to do is to improve the ABC of of the family and using this will make a perfect foundation of the family.

Acceptance - We should accept and understand the failures or defects of family members. Our life must go on. Always remember that without acceptance, everything will always be conflicts so give space.

Bonding - To build a strong family. One factor that you need to consider is having a good relationship between husband and wife and children.

Communication - You and your family should always have conversation and be open to each other.

Develop - Parent should help develop the talents of their children. Always support them on what they want and don’t force them what they really don’t want. I know some of the parents who decide for their children and that will be not good. Let him or her decide just guide them.

Encourage - Parents should always encourage their children to pursue their dreams and to aim high for their goals.

Friend - Parents shall not only maintain parent to children relationship but also develop their friendship.

God - Always make your children close to God to put their faith in God not to men.

INTRODUCTION

Our life is very meaningful and it is really impossible that we will not enjoy it. I don’t understand why there are so many people saying that they are board with their life and there is million things to do in this world. We are born to be lucky to see the universe, stars, moon, sky and all the natural life around us. Problem is just the part of life and just need solution.If you will see in the other side, life will be boring without problem and that is a fact. We live to have problems to solve it and that is a challenge or a mission that we need to finish.

I myself got lots of problems and I really don’t mind them so much. I have problem financially, I have problem with my health, family and many more but what I am thinking is that it is just part of my life or a mission that is given to me and I need to be successful with it.

I will share to you how to enjoy your life freely to make your feelings more great and better. This is based on my experience and I hope this will help.

MY STORY

I am actually dealing with unknown disease for almost nine years and I taken almost 6 options with the experts but all of it are useless but I am not still surrendering because I know that one day I will past to this problem.  What I am doing is that making myself happy in many ways. To forget what I got, one thing that I am always doing is:

TRAVEL- Traveling helps me forget everything and enjoy the rest of the moment and every new places. It add smile to my face every time I go to a new place and that is one factor to enjoy my life.

HAPPY MUSIC- While traveling, I always listen to happy music that matches the place where I go, for example, beach, then I will listen to reggae music.

EATING WITH FRIENDS- Eating really makes me enjoy and talking lots of things with my friends is another way to make your life more colorful.

Earning friends- The more you know many people, the more your life will be colorful. Always remember that a person cannot live by itself so be friendly and make friends.

Having a pet-It is true that when you are a pet lover or you simply want to have pet then it will be there to make you happy and forget your problem for a moment and this will help you thing better on how to solve it. Dogs are really sweet and cats too. Any kind of animal that is close to you is good.

Video games- Take a break and play some adventure games. Play kid games and it will make you enjoy more.

Plan for adventure- Have a extreme adventure with your friend just like me. I honestly don’t plan my day and I always want to flow whatever happens. Let the time decide for you.

The key to have a happy life is full of activies and friends and family. Try having a piece of paper and list down all the things that you’ve never try before and make it as your mission. It will make you busy and active and then your life will be meaningful.

When in a relationship everybody thinks about what they want out of it, but there are a few reasons why you shouldn’t start, or be in a romantic relationship at all. I would like to emphasize a few of these things:

You shouldn’t start a relationship with the intent of making someone else jealous. Be it your ex, or someone else. Such a behavior would not be fair for the new guy/girl – they might be serious about the relationship. Then there is the other person that you want to make jealous who might consider you are serous about the new someone, and cause them to back off even more; and last, but not least it’s yourself – you yourself will end up hurt in the end. Usually those that play this game end up losing it; one thing you will lose for sure is respect.

It is wise not to stay in a relationship if you develop feelings for someone else. If this happens you should take step back and wonder why. If you fall for somebody else it might mean that there are some things going wrong in your current relationship. This might be an alarm sign for you to end it. If you continue the relationship you will start feeling guilty and it will only make things harder – not to mention how hurt your current partner will be if he/she finds out that you have feelings for someone else… This is after all a form of betrayal. So be honest with yourself and with your partner and take a break – get some perspective on things, because secretly loving someone is a torture you shouldn’t experience.

Don’t stay in a relationship hoping for things to “work out” somehow. They never will, at least not in the way you expect them to. I’m not saying you should dump somebody going through a ruff time, just be aware of what’s happening. Is the relationship going somewhere? Is it beneficial for the both of you? The person you are with might be really wonderful inside and things might “work out” after all, but hardship has thins tendency of changing us, so in the end we are not the same. Our expectations change and things will not work out after all.

Don’t stay in an acceptable relationship. She’s all right; he’s all right – when in truth it should be: she’s wonderful, he’s great! Going on a date should make you happy, expectant and smiles all around. You shouldn’t drag your feet to a date! Analyze about your relationship and if you realize it’s not what you want it’s better to end thing sooner rather then later. If you wait for too long it’s only going to be more painful.

Don’t lower your standards! And I don’t mean you should only date Patrick Dempsey-es of Angelina Jolie-es. I’m not referring to the physical side here. If you think she/he is not as smart as you would like them to be, not spiritual enough for you, too serious all the time – not serious enough… or maybe they need a good influence. Don’t think you can help them out by being better. The truth is that it’s easier to spoil something good than it is to straighten something wrong or bad. It’s not impossible but these things are not for romantic relationships. So don’t play the hero card here because the price you will end up paying it’s just too great and it’s not worth it! You will get tired and will start resenting the other person. Don’t stay with someone whom you think is less than what you deserve – not when it comes to romance.
Don’t get pregnant to keep the guy! If you get pregnant don’t jump into marriage. I’ve seen thins happening and the relationship ended up in divorce. You shouldn’t run from responsibility if you’re a guy, but this doesn’t mean marriage. Be a father, offer your support and if you realize this is it, than make a proposal – but never in a hurry, or under stress and pressure.

You shouldn’t continue a relationship just because you feel guilty. Relationships driven by guilt are designed to fail. Maybe something happened between the two of you and it’s forcing you to stay in a relationship you no longer want to be in. In the end it doesn’t really matter what happened, you shouldn’t stay in a relationship because you feel responsible. Remember romantic relationships should be about happiness and excitement. It should make you glow not hide away pain behind fake smiles when you are in public.

Don’t seek relationships motivated by finances or privilege. I know it’s fashionable and it’s what they do on TV; but this is real life and believe me, even those stars are hurt when they are only sought out for their fame and money.

Be wise when it comes to romance; don’t play games because you will get hurt and you will hurt other people in the process. Remember it should be about LOVE not about anything else.

Learning another language is part of our homework assignment, I always have that kind of impression when I was in school. Knowing another language other than my own, might need a lot of practices, and memorizing, but eventually it might help my career in the future in this globalizing market. So I picked Spanish, and to practice it with my Mexican friends. I never thought that it helps me to find the girl I want to be with.

Her name was Maria, we met at a Mexican club on a Saturday night when I was visiting my friends. They brought me to a local Mexican dancing club. Maria was a waitress working there. I had a good impression on her on the first sight; but at the same time, I was too shy to talk to her. One reason is that I don’t speak good Spanish; I afraid that she won’t understand me. Second reason is that she might not like me. I was encouraged by my friends to take up a chance to approach her, and having a conversation. Our first conversation was committed to Spanish, and she didn’t fully understand. So she turns it to English, which is more convenient on me. But she told me that she doesn’t speak much of the English, but she will try her best.

Ever since then, I become a regular customer to that club. I just trying to see her on the weekend. Since we both have some sort of language barrier, I bought a Spanish / English dictionary and a book of Spanish daily conversation guide, in trying to learn as much as I can, so I can talk to her fluently in her language. To improve my Spanish, I also trying to practice with my Mexican friends, and ask them whatever I need to know in conversation. Through these practice and learning, I knew at least some useful conversations and a lot of vocabularies. Sometimes, I even went to Blockbuster to rent the Spanish movies, for the listening practice sake.

It was ongoing like this for while. Finally, one day she asked me to exchange cell phone number, and I was exhilarated. she called me the next two days. At our first date, I went to pick her up; and she introduced me to her mom and step father. I was nervous then, because I had to converse them in Spanish. And I did try my best, at least they understand me. Ever since then, we go out a lot; watch movies or go to malls. Sometimes, I would play Mexican music I found on the Internet, and she always ask if I understand them. Surely I don’t, but I told her that I am learning Spanish. She tried her best to interpreted the songs in English for me. And she also taught me some corrected Spanish conversations.

Learning to speak another language is not a easy task. But trying to learn a new language, might bring your to a new adventure, and a great adventure.

Almost every girl wants her boyfriend to do different things to make her feel special.  Things that are a surprise, something she won’t expect to happen or get from her boyfriend.  Some girls want something from his heart not some gift bought in the store.  Dr. Chapman stated in his book “The Five Love Languages” that one language is the language of gifts.  While some people have a primary language of gifts, others don’t, but a surprise gift can still mean and say a lot.  Some of the best gifts are the ones that don’t cost a thing, the things he creates on his own to express how he (or she) feels.  A good idea that he mentioned that I like is each person write down a list of surprises that you would like and each person try to do each of the surprises on the list in random order at random times.  Here are some ideas of random surprises that you can do off of a list.

Read a poem:  Poetry is one of the best ways a person can express their love, and back in the day of the classic literature (Brownings, Dickenson etc) poetry was one of the main things a man did to try and woo a woman.  Shakespeare is most known for his love sonnets “Shall I Compare Thee” is probably his most famous.  What you can do is pick a poem that you feel expresses your love the best: for me it was “How Do I Love Thee” by Elizabeth Barrett Browning.  For an added surprise and effort you can write a poem and then read it.  From a girl’s perspective having a poem read to you that your boyfriend wrote is one of the highest forms of feeling special.  To see that he took the time to write you a poem says a lot.

Love Letters:  This day and age writing a love letter doesn’t happen all that often, unless a girl writes one to her boyfriend.  But honestly men: how many of you write a love letter to your girlfriend?  Seeing a guy’s feelings on paper shows passion on love because it takes a lot to be able to put your love into words; sometimes it can be impossible, but even simply saying “words can’t justify how I feel for you” can go a long way.  Even in an email getting a note that says something like “i appreciate you” or “you don’t know how special you are to me.”  But what I am talking about is an actual letter in your handwriting, that may be more than one page.  Put it in envelope with her name on it and leave it on the pillow or in her lunch to find.  Think of how special that would be.

Draw a cheesy picture:  Okay I know this may sound a little high schoolish, but it is still cute to find a little picture of a heart with initials in them.  I know some girls do that a lot, heck I am one of them.  But to have a guy draw a cheesy picture for you is so cute and sweet.  It meant a lot to me when my boyfriend drew an eye, then a heart, then a sheep (ewe) to be a pictogram for “I love you.”  You can draw a picture in the paint application on the computer and then send it in an email something like your own personal e-card.  Some of the love e-cards can be so impersonally and generic that making one of your own could be cute even if the pictures don’t move and it doesn’t have sound that goes with it.

Creative “I love you”:  Simply saying “I love you” all the time may not be enough all the time.  I love you can be overused sometimes.  I think coming up with unique ways of saying I love you could become a new game: like who can come up with the most creative way of saying those three little words.  You can use foreign languages like “Je T’aime” or other languages.  You can like I said before draw little pictograms or even a play on words somehow.  You can use your own personality and interests to make it more interesting.  Some guys would write a song, while others would cook a romantic dinner.  There are other ways you can come up with like little cut out letters spelling it out and you can leave it on the pillow or in the kitchen.

Surprise Dances:  When it is raining outside take her hand and lead her out into the rain for a romantic dance in the rain.  Of course you only want to do this when the weather outside is warm, you don’t want to dance in the rain and get sick right?  Dancing in the rain can be so romantic especially if you do it under the stars.  You can also drive to an empty lot like at a high school and dance under the stars.  I have always had the dream of being taken to the parking lot of the school, where a picnic is set up and a radio.  As we dance he places a crown on my head and tells me it’s my prom and I was his prom queen (I never went to prom).  Guys could always do that: every woman wants to feel like a queen and giving her a special prom where she is the queen would be something special.

Unexpected hugs and kisses:  Sure everyone expects hugs and kisses when we part and come together again.  Getting an unexpected kiss or hug is a simple surprise, especially if it is done around friends or family.  For example you could be out with a group for friends and while in a conversation you can lean over and kiss her cheek, it is the smallest way to say “I love you and in this crowd you are important to me.”  We ladies want to feel important and special and doing different thing while in public helps us feel special and important.  It doesn’t have to be a big display of affection, but something simple like hugging her from behind or a small kiss on the cheek.  Whisper in her ear that you love her and how beautiful she is will almost always put a smile on her face.

Pick Wildflowers: While on your way to see her you can stop by the side of the road in the spring or summer and pick her a handful of flowers.  They are as wonderful as store bought flowers, but also more special because you took the time to stop and pick her flowers.  It shows you were thinking of her and could also say that you are always thinking of the woman in your life.  Many times the wildflowers that you pick can’t be bought in the store, so it would be special and unique because many guys can go out a buy a dozen roses or so, but to take the time to stop and pick roses says a lot.  When my boyfriend pulled the flowers he picked from behind his back I couldn’t help but smile even though I don’t like flowers all that much.

Make Time For Her: This may not sound like something big, but some guys are so incredibly busy that there may not be a lot of time to spend together.  So making time for her makes her feel special and important.  Don’t go to that band practice one night in order to take her out to dinner, or don’t go to that game so you can sit under the trees and watch the leaves fall.  Some couples take a day out of the week and make that night their “date” night where no one and nothing else can interrupt them.  No other plans are allowed to be made for that night because that is their time together.  That shows that both parties are invested into the relationship and willing to do what it takes to make each other feel special and loved.  Instead of doing something on a normal ‘date’ day, take time off some other day and surprise her for dinner or something along those lines.

Be interested in her interests:  Every one has their own list of interests and things they like to do in their spare time.  It could be writing, sports, cards, dancing, whatever you name it.  One way to make your spouse feel special is to show interest in the things that interest them.  If she likes poetry, go with her to a poetry reading, or if he is in a band or male choir go to his concert with him.  If he plays in a sport go to one of the events and cheer so loud for him, show him your support.  If she loves to dance suggest taking a dance class together.  Interests and hobbies are important to everyone and when someone you love and care about shows an interest in your interests and hobbies it shows they really care and want to know more about you and be with you whenever they can be.

Many of the things you can do as a surprise could cross many languages like quality time and words of affirmation.  Surprises are always great when they come from someone you love.  Sometimes people can feel like the love has plateaued or things are getting strained or that it just got too comfortable.  When you do different things to surprise the one you love with different things like poems, letters, and small gestures of love go a long way and help keep the passion there and help keep the love strong.  Different things that you do help ignite the passion and keep it fired.  Having a relationship can take work and time, you can’t just let it be and take things for granted.  Every girl needs to feel loved and special.  These things and the surprises that you can come up with will help keep your girlfriend (and boyfriends they like to feel special too right?) feel special.

Fights between lovers and spouses are quite common phenomena in human relationships. There are several reasons why relationships break up. Some of them are:

1. Boredom

Living with the same person often becomes like doing the same work over and over again, staying at the same place, or, taking the same food daily. People feel bored. They want change, though they may not admit it openly. They start sneaking out in search of new relationships and once they find out one, they tend to break up with the current partner.

2. Clash of egos

Some people have great egos. It is difficult for them to tolerate an opposing or even a different opinion from their partners. So they often insist upon having their own way and start quarreling with their partners over small issues. Small bickerings develop into big fights in course of time. Separation becomes the only way out of such situations.

3. Possessiveness

This weakness appears more frequently among the married couples. Both the spouses feel possessive about each other. People often do not willingly allow each other the free space that they both deserve. The result is that both feel suffocated and run out of the wedlock to breathe freely.

Jealousy

This weakness is more commonly found among women. If the wife sees her husband talking with his colleague more often even about official issues, she tends to become jealous. No amount of explanation offered by the husband seems to satisfy the wife. A slight delay in coming back from the office turns the needle of suspicion towards the erring colleague even though the husband may have been detained in the traffic jam. This kind of suspicion has broken up many loving relationships.

Infidelity

This is one trait in man which his wife cannot accept. No woman can tolerate her cheating husband. Infidelity, of course, is not the exclusive privilege of men only. Some women too are prone to it. People engage sleuths to spy on their partners. They tap their telephones. Once the suspicion takes deep roots, relations break up.

Writing a romantic poem for someone is one of the best ways to express your feelings. You can put things in the poem that you may be too shy to say in person. Opening your heart to someone in this way will promote a connection. Letting your emotions flow into the poem will bring you and the other person closer. Romantic poetry is a great way to show the person you love your true self.

Think of all the qualities you really love about the other person. Things like how they look, what they believe in, their spirit, and traits that set them apart from others. Keep these all in mind while writing the poem. Expound on the person’s good qualities. Let your emotions show through in the writing. This is not the time to hold back!

Tell the person how you really feel about them. Make them feel the emotion in the poem. Explain exactly what you love about them. Use romantic words to convey everything.

Giving a romantic poem along with an engagement ring would be a nice touch. It is something your future bride is sure to remember.

Romantic poems are good gifts for birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries, and just as “I love you” presents. Plus it’s always good to give a romantic poem to show that you’re sorry for past transgressions.

Romantic poems aren’t just for men to write either. Women can write one for their guy. Men may not admit it, but they like getting sentimental gifts too. Anyone in a relationship should take the time to show the other person what they mean to them.

Poetry has long been a sure way to a woman’s heart. Pour your heart and soul into the poem. Show her exactly how you feel about her, and you can’t go wrong. Write a romantic poem today and cement your relationship.