Five Love Languages - Book review

October 7th, 2008 | Article by Felrna | Personal Development, Publishing, Relationships |

Article about: acts, books, gifts, love, physical touch, quality time, reading, Relationships, words of affirmation

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I have just finished reading a wonderful book called The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. What it is about is, how we each express love and feel loved. We feel loved in different ways: words, acts, gifts, touch, and quality time. Dr. Chapman goes through all of the languages and talks about how important they are and how we as spouses can learn to express our love in the language of our spouse. There is a profile in the back of the book for husbands and wives to take to find out what their language is based on a series of questions. Once you know the language you can love your spouse in that way, and keep them happy.

I think this book is very informative. It has helped the way I look at the small things that my spouse does, and it helped me learn to appreciate the things he does. Dr. Chapman puts the explanations in terms that are easy to understand and easy to relate to. He uses scenarios from past relationships he worked with and how they can be changed based on the love language of each involved. What I think was very helpful was Dr. Chapman explained the differences in various things like quality time and quantity time, or what physical touch really mean and nope it’s not just sex.

He stressed how important it is that you pay attention to the things you say and do, because while the love languages can make you feel loved, they can also be used negatively. Your love language can be the thing that hurts you the most. If your language is words, then someone saying you didn’t do something makes you feel unappreciated, unloved or even like you do anything to make this person happy. Even if the language of our spouses isn’t words it’s still important to use them wisely and tell our significant other how important they are.

I have to say this book really increased the worth of my relationship and helped me show my husband that I truly love him in different ways. I don’t use just his love language, but I try to use all of them, and I think that makes it all the more special, unique and somewhat unexpected. The pastor at my church is going to use this book for a couple’s group he is going to start, and it is important that couples learn the language of their spouse, it could help decrease the amount of divorces there are. Dr. Chapman does use some references to the Bible, like he talked of Solomon saying his tongue can give life or death.

This is one book that every couple should read together. It isn’t very helpful if only one of you reads it. You can set up a list of things that would help make you feel loved such as: hold my hand in public, hug me from behind, write me a love letter, read me a cheesy poem, go for a walk with me. Anything you can think of to make you feel loved and give it to your spouse. Everyone wants to feel loved, and make their lover feel loved, The Five Love Languages is a great book for couples and will improve the relationship no matter what stage it is in, beginning, engaged or marriage. Pick up the book and find new ways to make each other feel loved.

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