Non-verbal communication with the little children

You communicate even when you don`t want to - by your gesture, voice and attitude.

Decisive seconds

90% of the opinion about somebody  it is built in the first 50 seconds of interaction. It`s about the famous “the first impression”, which predominates even when you talk with the babes. From here results the importance of communicating with the children, especially the nonverbal communication (mimicry, sight, gestures, bad or good mood)

Interaction with 2 directions

The influence of the nonverbal behavior is the same as a road with 2 directions. On one hand are the grown-ups, trying to teach the children. On the other hand are the children trying to have positive nonverbal behavior. In this way you, I propose you a little test. Notice your child`s reaction when you say to him “Listen ! You make me angry!” in two ways:

-using a calm tonality and intonation

-using a firm expression, a raised tone of voice.

“The Pygmalion effect”

The Pygmalion effect is a very interesting concept, meaning that a teacher has an exactly opinion about a child and then he is building him up according to that idea! I mean,the image that the grown-up has about the child is transferred to him. How can this be possible?

According to the latest researches, it has been noticed that the teachers, which believe that one of the children is very smart, tend to give him a lot of attention. The teacher smiles to him, stimulates him to answer frequently, gives him harder exercises and helps him to find the best solution.

Parents guide

So what this research proves? That not only what we are saying can help our children, but our attitude, too. For this, try to follow some steps:

• Get involved in your child`s life. Find out what he likes and what he doesn`t. In this way, he will feel respected, improving his self-esteem.
• Develop the communication between you and your child. For example, a rule is established between two persons. A rough “advice” will intimidate him and forget about the thought rule. Once a rule is established, its breaching can take to negative consequences. But don`t forget: you should respect the rules too in the relation with the child!
• Encourage his discoveries. Encourage his positive behaviour and his effort. Guide your child without imposing yourself.
• Find motivating situations where you child can improve his abilities, even if he`s weak. The compulsion and the imposing can make him feel inferior.
• Collaborate with his teacher to know your child better.
• Come to know other parents, too, maybe they have good solutions of how to work with their children.

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This entry was posted on Monday, October 13th, 2008 at 7:47 am.